June 15th, 2012 
by Lower Columbia College
Question by tequilla_to_kill: How do I break away from parental control without severing ties forever?
I am nineteen and my parents still act like I am seven. My curfew is nine o'clock and I hardly have a social life. I am trying to attend college, but in no hurry for a degree and trying to find a full time job as a CNA (Certified Nursing Assistant). I want to move out of my hometown Aka Flagstaff and start my own life. employment opportunities are too hard to find here and college and living expenses are through the roof! I talked to my father about this and all he says is you will have plenty of time to start your own life once you get your degree through NAU.. he has my life planned out for me and it really bothering me I feel like I am being smothered. I also in love with someone in Arkansas who is currently a junior in high school. I want to see him but neither one of my parents supports me, or will let me.. what should I do? Should I sacrifice everything I have with my father for love and freedom?
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Answer by brai9284
i understand this completely. the only thing that might work is to move out and support yourself. but i know that is hard, especially for someone in college. try and talk to your parents and tell them how you feel. give them some good facts about getting away. like that you can get better work opportunities. or something to that extent.
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1. let your friend who is a junior in high school grow up first
2. Move to Phoenix and get a job and finish your school there.
3. Live your own life and set respectable boundaries with your parents.
NO, you shouldn’t. You have time to live your life, but sacrificing your father’s love, support, and respect for love with some teenager with more restrictions than you is insane. Consider talking to your Dad about you needing more freedom or plan to live on campus at your college.
If you are Mexican, and I guess this by the name Tequila, then it’s your culture. Mexican families are very hard on the girls and strict. So, I understand where you are coming from. But although your freedom sounds so tempting, I know for a fact that a CNA’s job is very hard! And they don’t make the kind of money a vocational or registered nurse makes. They basically clean up after everyone and all the hard stuff. It would pay for an apartment and other things, but you’d barely get by. Is your father willing to pay for your college? Just what are his plans for you? You didn’t say how he’s got your life planned out. I think the real thing that is driving you to leave is your boyfriend. But he’s only a junior in high school. He’s too young right now. Tell your parents that you want a little more freedom of coming and going. Be respectful, and perhaps they will really listen to you. I don’t think you should leave your family right now. Guys come and go but family is for life.